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3 STEPS TO GETTING RID OF NEGATIVE THOUGHTS.
I come from a long line of worriers. I mean my family knows how to worry like it’s their JOB.
I definitely inherited some of that and since I’ve spent the past 20 years on studying and deliberately practicing the Law of Attraction, I’ve realized how important our seemingly innocent thoughts are to creating the life we want. (or don’t want)
I promise you, and I speak from experience, there is no point to worry and negative self talk.
Here’s what I mean.
Worry will never prevent something bad from happening and it will also never prepare you for the worst. All it does is breed more worry which makes you feel like shit in the present and helps you to attract more of that shitty feeling into your life.
Same with self critique-ing.
Thoughts that bash and belittle yourself won’t help you achieve your goals, they won’t make you any better on the outside and they definitely aren’t doing anything good for you on the inside.
They will also just attract more people, scenarios and situations that affirm those untrue negative thoughts about yourself.
It shows how our thoughts and intentions change and affect water. Our bodies are made up of over 65% water.
You do the math.
Truth be told even the most positive of people have negative thoughts from time to time, we’re human. BUT you can definitely learn to manage them.
When we were young, if my sister and I had a nightmares or were scared for whatever reason my mom would calm us down by telling us to think about Christmas morning or our family vacations at the Shore, two very happy, fun times for us.
She would even talk it through so we had a clear visual. It was like guide visualization. (Love that woman!)
By turning our focus to happy, more positive thoughts (which feel so much better) our stress response was immediately shut down and our relax response was triggered.
This allowed more good thoughts and feelings to flow to us and through us.
To this day whenever I want to get myself out of a negative thought pattern or some useless worry and tension I can go to those or other feel good memories to pull me out of the loop.
Below are 3 Steps you can use to start getting rid of negative thoughts for yourself.
#1 MAKE A GO TO FEEL GOOD THOUGHTS & FEELINGS LIST
Make this list a head of time.
When you’re worrying or thinking negative thoughts about yourself it’s a lot harder to find positive, happy thoughts in that moment. Being prepared dramatically increases your chances of successfully building a new habit.
You can use old memories, accomplishments and successes, day dreams of what you want for the future, people you love, admire or appreciate or even humor.
You know how something funny happens, like someone falls or bumps into something (usually me) and you can make yourself laugh out loud just by reliving it in your head?
Use one of those.
A funny youtube vid or movie scene can work too.
#2 BECOME A THOUGHT DETECTIVE
Next you need to start becoming aware of your negative thoughts. Negative thoughts can be sneaky, hidden bastards so you need to pay attention.
Part of the problem is that we don’t even realize when those negative tapes are playing on repeat in our head. And those repeats are creating our life! This is IMPORTANT peeps!
If you’re not sure where to begin, start with first noticing how you feel.
Feeling tense and anxious? What did you just think about? You job? Your low bank account? A certain person….?
Our emotions are the effect of our thoughts. Thoughts are the cause and sometimes it can be easier to notice the feeling first, but do what works for you.
#3 REPLACE IT
When you find the negative thought, let it go. Literally watch it float out of your head (because it can, easy peasy).
Then choose to insert the new thought, memory or day dream etc…
Remember this process is a practice, like building a muscle. It’s no different than going to the gym when you’re out of shape. At first it can take a lot of effort, but eventually it becomes easier and easier until it’s a habit that you don’t even think about it.
Alright, now it’s your turn.
Have you had success with retraining your negative thinking patterns? If so, how did you do it?