I’m really excited about today’s post because it’s an excellent question from one of my readers and I think it could help you too. I also included a fun challenge at the end and I’d love for you to give it a try.
“How do you keep from manifesting the exact opposite of what you are trying for? It’s tricky because you can put something out there–but if you don’t do it correctly, you can attract the opposite of the goal you are attempting.”
Such a great question Rox!
How to keep from manifesting the opposite of what you want IS tricky, until you understand what’s going on behind the scenes.
Everything in your life, or I should say your reality, is a reflection of your beliefs.
And I do mean everything. Money, talent, success, the people, how you live, how you work, if you work, your home, your heath and the list goes on and on.
The tricky part about manifesting is making sure that your beliefs are aligned with your desire. As long as those two are NOT in sync, I don’t care how many vision boards you do, your desire WILL, NOT, MANIFEST.
As soon as you truly believe something, then and only then, will it manifest. This goes for the good and the bad.
Everything in the U is energy vibrating at a certain frequency, including our emotions.
This is why you need to get into an emotional place of already having what it is that you want BEFORE you have it.
For example, say you want more money in your life, but you’re constantly worrying about paying your bills or you’re always complaining that you don’t have enough and you feel like your finances are always a struggle.
As long as you’re feeling this way, YOU WILL BE ATTRACTING THE EXACT OPPOSITE OF YOUR DESIRE, which is more money.
Yes, you need to be clear on what you want and the vision of you living in financial abundance, but even more importantly, what you need to do is to get clear on what that would FEEL like.
You can say all the positive affirmations in the world, but the money won’t materialize because you’re still FEELING poor, desperate and you’re energetically vibrating from a place of lack.
What we focus on grows. In this case, the feeling of abundance is what you want to focus on NOT the feeling of “not having enough”. Make sense?
But I can just hear you all now…. “How am I supposed to feel like I have enough money when I clearly do not!?”
The feeling of your desire is what you’re after. In this case, it’s not the actual money, it’s most likely the feelings of abundance, generosity, security & freedom that having money would bring to you.
That being said, you’ll want to feel those feelings as often as you can.
2 no fail ways for stirring up feelings of abundance are both gratitude and generosity.
Look around for where you’re already feeling abundant or how you could feel more generous. And focus there!
Maybe you can’t buy the new boots you want just yet, but you’re so grateful for the good friends in your life. Gratitude = gratitude and will attract more to be grateful for.
Maybe you have a mountain of credit card debt, instead of looking at it as a burden try thanking your credit cards for having your back in your time of need. Let them know you’ll pay them off as soon as you can (which will be soon, if you keep yourself thinking this way!)
Maybe you can’t give money to your fave charity right now, but you can give your time. Generous = generous.
This is an example for flipping your money vibes around, but the same is true for anything. Want more success? Better health? How would you feel? And how can you feel that NOW?
The other way to get into the feelings if you’re struggling to find something existing in your reality is your imagination!
Allow yourself the pleasure of visualizing AKA day dreaming for at least 20 minutes a day about your desire and how you’re feeling once you have it. This works beautifully. You’re subconscious does not know the difference between fantasy and reality, isn’t that fantastic news? And you’ll feel great too, day dreaming is super good for the soul.
Ok, I’m going to finish this post with a little challenge because this info will do you no good if you don’t actually implement what I’m telling you and I want you to feel your power.