Have you ever wanted something sooooOO bad, except it was for someone else?

Maybe you watched your loved one drown in a sea of debt after they lost their job. Or maybe they have health issues you wish you could help them heal. Maybe your best friend is in an awful relationship and you want to find her a new man who treats her the way YOU feel she should be treated.

Today I’m answering a question that comes up a lot:

Is it possible to use the law of attraction to manifest something for someone else?

The answer is yes. And no.

It’s not 100% cut and dry so I’ll explain with some examples.

If you and the other person both want the same thing, are both aware of the LoA and are actively working together on the same outcome by intending, visualizing or however you choose to align yourself with the vibration of whatever it is you want, then yes.

Two or more bodies intending the same outcome & vibrating at the same frequency are more powerful than one for sure!

BUT, if the person you’re trying to manifest for is NOT aligned (even if they say they want it) it won’t manifest or I should say it won’t be received.

Here’s what I mean.

Say you know and care about someone who is going through a rough time financially.

They’re going deeper and deeper into the hole and you do your best to try to keep them positive, but they hang on to the vibration of ‘les mis/poor me’ most of the time, which creates more opportunities for them to feel miserable.

You can’t bare to see them in so much pain so you decide that you will manifest money or ways to make money for them. And you can, but it doesn’t mean they’ll receive it or allow it into their reality.

If you’re vibing at the right frequency money & money opportunities will show up all over the place in YOUR perceived reality.

You could win some and want to give it to them, but they won’t accept a handout. You can come across the perfect job description, but they’ll find a gazillion reasons why it won’t work for them. Or they do go to an interview and subconsciously sabotage it by being late or awkward.

If they’re not aligned themselves they will push the opportunities away. They won’t “allow” it into their reality.

I know the feeling of wanting to fix everything and make the problems of our loved ones go away so they can be happy, healthy and all of those other things we humans say that we want, but if they can’t or won’t receive what you’re bringing in, it’ll be draining and disheartening for you.

I have a new motto and I say it to myself whenever I feel that disheartening frustration kicking in, “It’s not my job”.

It’s not our job to fix anyone else’s problems other than our own. We are only responsible for ourselves. They need to learn in their own time, in their own way. The only job you have is to love them anyway.

It’s the only thing you have control over.

The best thing to do is to shower them with love, compassion and appreciation as much as you can. Instead of manifesting for them, focus on helping them get their vibes up more consistently so they can manifest for themselves.

The energy of our thoughts, intention and emotions are extremely POWERFUL.

Way more powerful than we give them credit for and showering someone with gratitude and love will most certainly affect them in a positive way (even if you do it in your mind or from a far).

When they’re ready to receive or allow whatever they need into their lives, they’ll manifest it on their own or they’ll ask for your help. In the meantime all you can do is be there for them in a positive & supportive way.

Easier said than done… I know, but remember this whole “life” thing is a practice.

Ok, your turn.

Can you relate? I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences around this topic. Share in the comments below.





  1. Brenda

    This is a recurring theme in my life, whether it’s financial or emotional, and yes your right! It’s not my job to make things happen for people. I can just be loving an supportive but they have to “wake” up themselves. I will continue to “be there” for them but it’s important they do the work. You’re also right to say that it is easier said than done though. Great post, thank you!

  2. Stacey

    I can relate 100%…when I’m working with clients who really want to improve their health due to a significant medical condition, something like managing diabetes for example, I sometimes feel like I’m working really hard as the coach to make them finally be 100% ready to commit to a change. Now that I’ve been working as a coach for quite some time, I’ve learned to not work so hard and meet the client where they are, and just continue to support as best I can without trying to manifest their goals for them. If the client is willing to be just as patient with the process as I am, typically they reach an “ah-ha” moment or realization and things start to turn around! Great reminder to not work so hard for others and instead let others learn their own lessons…

  3. Susan Seale

    Hi Susan! My grandmother manifested me a teaching job almost 30 years ago. She really wanted me to work close to where she and my grandfather lived so she would pray every day that I would get a job at the elementary school down the road from where they lived.

    First, I got a job up north on a reserve for a couple of years and then came home. I went for interviews everywhere and made the rounds handing out my substitute teaching cards and didn’t expect to get anything because in those days there were NO jobs in populated areas of the province. Then one day, the phone rang and I’d been short-listed for a job I didn’t apply for. The principal had met me (sort of) during the summer (thru a prof I’d had at university who talked about me during a course where the principal was a contributor) and this principal wanted me on staff. Enrollment had gone up at their school. There were lots of folks older and more experienced. I shouldn’t really have got the job. I blew the interview because I was so nervous. I went home and ate a bag of crackers in my sorrow. then…

    I got the job.

    At that school down the road from where my grandmother lived…except she’d just moved into town and no longer lived there! So I drove allllll the way to my new job for 8 years and was grateful every time because I knew it was because of her prayers.

    According to a minister I know well…it’s a spiritual law that grandparents, parents and godparents can manifest things for their children.:)

  4. Ro

    My husband and I have done this! He has a very serious illness and we both wanted him to get better, so we could have a life together. We both lived as though he was not sick. Well, his condition is “stable” (he will never be cured–we can only hope for stability)…and he has been stable for a very long time now. The longer he stays stable…the more we live our lives as though the disease is not there…the more we live our lives, the more he stays stable… and round and round it goes! It’s wonderful! 🙂

  5. Shannon Elhart

    This is awesome, Susan! I’ve wondered about this many times. I am going to call a friend of mine up and forward this to her. We are having two similar ‘issues’ that we want to shift, and she is aligned. Having us work together, to benefit both of our growth, will be so much more powerful! I appreciate your advice very much!

  6. Beth

    I don’t think I’ve consciously tried to manifest something for someone else, but I have fervently wished for things for others, and you’re right … they have to want it for themselves. Lots of times they are invested in playing the victim of circumstances (I’ve been guilty of this as well). It’s hard to watch but everyone has their own lessons to learn on their own timelines.

  7. Shanda

    Susan, I love the way you consistently and brilliantly convey complex ideas in applicable bite size bits!

    The point you made that stands out the most for me is the power in loving and lifting up others vs trying to create change for them.

  8. Torrie

    This is soooo good!!! All my life I’ve tried to manifest FOR others…. most of the time I prayed/chanted and visualized for them…then one day I heard loud and clear “check their frequency.” I didn’t understand the message, but after days of meditating I finally understood that the U was telling me that I was wasting my time because this person I was trying to manifest something for wasn’t ready to receive it. The U was trying to avoid me feeling cheated, drained and pissed off (or feeling like my request was unheard).

    I won’t lie…it sucks ASS that we can’t just manifest for someone regardless of their frequency…but the truth is…that’s MAJOR protection. Otherwise people would be manifesting shit for us all the time…most of the time stuff we don’t want lol.

    I love that you remind us here to TEACH them…and EMPOWER them to get their vibes up. We don’t have to give up and stop trying…we just need to shift the energy to showing them the way. Such a good lesson! Thank you.

    I swear…you have the best blog EVER!!!

    1. Susan Post author

      Thank you so much Torrie!! I love that you love it 😀 And that’s such a great way of looking at it. The U protecting us, by not letting anyone manifest for us. Awesome point!

  9. Stacey

    Thank you I Am currently struggling with this. My husband currently works out of state and possibly want to move from our home town. The kids and I don’t want to for numerous reasons. I try to manifest a good job to come his way here, with no luck. I now see he has to want it to and put actions behind it himself

  10. Ildiko

    My spouse is struggling to keep his jobs, and mostly unsuccessfully. this has been going on for years, and we are financially strained. I’ve tried to be very supportive. He does not believe in the law of attraction. I’ve been telling him he needs to do more, and he just told me that maybe it is my fault that bad things happen to him. I am a worrier and always see bad things coming in our financial area, and mostly because of him. Is that possible that I caused all the “misfortune” in his job situations? Eventually it is part of our financial picture, which i constantly worry about. I’ve read before that we cannot manifest for others, but i am confused. Our financial situation is connected, we are on the same bank account. Every time I do good at my work and raise my salary, his pay reduces, or he does not get enough assignments. Is he right about blaming me?

    1. Susan Post author

      Ildiko, I’m so sorry you’re going through that.

      I promise you that NO ONE is responsible for anyone else’s experience of reality. Meaning it is NOT your fault that he is having job misfortune.

      You can’t create for someone else. Reality is a reflection of each individuals belief system. And it can feel like you’re responsible if you both have similar beliefs, but I assure you his experience is all his. Life isn’t happening to you, it’s happening FROM you.

      I have a free training coming out on Jan 19th and it will help you understand all of this, especially the first video where I explain how it all works. You can get it here if you’re interested,

      Keep doing what you’re doing for yourself. You can’t make him participate, but your shifts & changes could inspire him if he sees you in action 🙂


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